• How I Set Boundaries (From A Place Of Love)

    *Cue terrible ringtone circa 2006(ish).* My heart started racing and massive anxiety set in. I did NOT want to take this call…

    The requisite small talk – I disdain small talk – took place. And then, mic drop #1: “You can’t stay with me anymore when you’re in town.” As predicted, the raging, gaslighting, and belittling ensued.

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  • How to “Ride the Wave” When You’re Triggered

    I’m not always all love and light and sometimes shit gets to me. For example, I’m highly sensitive to certain sounds, and noises made “just because” turn me into an irritated stress ball. When this happens, the “flight” part of the “fight or flight” response kicks in, and I’m outta there. I live in a home with young children, so this is something that I contend with regularly.

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  • How I Found Peace When Confronted with All-Consuming Despair

    Tragedy struck my world exactly one week ago in the home that I share with my boyfriend, his children, and my daughter, and I was forced to surrender my beloved rescue pup Damsel. [Please know that I was a foster fail and the rescue is a no-kill nonprofit. Damsel is not in any danger of being put down.]

    The grief was overwhelming.

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  • How I Tamed My Stubborn AF Inner Control Freak

    Five weeks ago, I moved in with my boyfriend. He recently bought a bungalow in Chicago, and what was once a household of two became a household of five.

    It’s what I wanted and let me be clear – I adore the hell out of him – but it’s caused my stubborn AF inner control freak to nearly lose her mind.

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  • How I Forgave My Ultimate Spiritual Sandpaper

    We all have people in our lives who challenge our sanity, at least from time to time. Their motives matter not, and I’ve taken to call them my spiritual sandpaper.

    The spiritual sandpaper I’m referring to in this post is my daughter’s father. The backstory is that he sued me for custody shortly before her 11th birthday.

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  • Reckoning with Uncertainty (Era 4)

    I’ve known since I survived my final suicide attempt that I had a story to share (era 1). My discovery of Krishnamurti’s teachings and how that led me to give up nearly everything to pursue a life of purpose solidified this awareness (era 2). After working with a mentor for seven years and transforming my life with her wisdom (era 3) followed by the deep personal growth I experienced in era 4…

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