Label 1: transformative life coach
Label 2: sacred sister circle facilitator
Label 3: sacred cacao carrier (in training)
Label 4: storyteller
Label 5: holder of an MPA (it’s like an MBA for gov’t & NPOs)
Label 6: holder of a BS in economics
Label 7: mother
Label 8: girlfriend/partner
Label 9: meditator
Label 10: student of yoga
Label 11: (recovering) data analyst
Label 12: (recovering) protester
And so many more.
I’m here to help you understand your unique calling and create the impact that you were put here on this earth to make. To help you work through your beliefs and thoughts that keep you stuck so that you can instead create a deeply inspired and purpose-driven life. To help you set boundaries, navigate complicated relationships, and catalyze radical transformations. To facilitate a deeper spiritual connection to Mama Earth, Source, God, or [insert name that resonates].
Discover today’s iteration of your purpose and how the hell you’ll fulfill it.
Create radical transformation or at least change what’s not working in your life.
Set boundaries and reclaim your voice in toxic, manipulative relationships.
Holding space is one of the most powerful ways that we humans can show up for each other and is an antidote for the constant disconnection that we experience in our lives. It’s in these sacred circles where we hold deep space for – where we truly see and hear – our sisters.
All sacred circles are live, and most are conducted via Zoom. Please click the button below to learn about and register for current and future circling opportunities. Please note that in most cases, these sacred circles require at least 4 participants and are capped at 12.
My name’s Kristi, and although I wear many labels, none define who I truly am.
They don’t capture my divine essence; they only describe things that I’ve done, been, accomplished.
“Hi, I’m Kristi. I’m a transformative life coach and a sacred sister circle facilitator.”
These labels – including my name – feel inadequate.
While labels do play an important role in terms of how we navigate the world and foster connections with others, they don’t define us at the level of BEing.
Who you truly are has nothing to do with the labels that you wear.
And yet, we live our whole lives wrapped in identities that mask our deeper truths from everyone, including ourselves.
So, who are you, really?
I’m here to help you figure all that existential shit out, to help you reconnect with who you truly are at the soul level, and to help you redesign your life so that how you show up in the world matches who you truly are.
I’m here to help you shed old labels that no longer serve you, labels that exist to coerce you to conform, to adapt to a profoundly sick society.
So that you can create the impact that you were uniquely put on Earth to make.
So that you can live your most extraordinary, soul-aligned, and deeply inspired life.
YOU are not your amazing job title.
YOU are not a relational label to someone else.
YOU are not your “failures” or even your triumphs.
YOU are not broken, despite the traumas you’ve experienced.
YOU are far more glorious than any of the labels and stories you’ve used to describe your “reality.”
And when you re-evaluate and sometimes even strip away the labels that you’ve adopted over a lifetime and invite vulnerability in, magic happens.
Life becomes so much more meaningful, blissful, peaceful, wondrous.
Living with integrity, intention, compassion, and purpose become natural byproducts, and it’s this way of living, this way of BEing that brings healing to others.
The ripple effect is contagious.
You are a sister in a beautiful, powerful, global sisterhood.
You are a node in a network of billions.
When you rise, you inspire others to rise.
Because energy is contagious.
And your sisters inspire their sisters to rise.
Because energy is contagious.
If you’re connected to 1,000 souls (and if we can assume that this is the average for others), you’re a single soul away from being connected to a million souls, and two souls away from a billion souls.
A billion souls. Let that sink in.
YOU are far more powerful than you think.
It’s time to get rid of those damn labels that keep you trapped in a society-conforming box.
It’s time to allow the whispers of your soul to guide you.
It’s time to rise, sister.
It’s time to honor your calling.
It’s time to make the impact that you were uniquely put on this earth to make.
Break those chains.
Taste the freedom that comes with being who you truly are.
Live that freedom.
Breathe that freedom.
BE that freedom.
One of my labels is storyteller, and what follows is my story, in brief. I love stories because they’re beautiful vessels for fostering relatability and inspiring transformation in others. As Brené Brown puts it – “One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.”
So, here goes.
My journey down this path began in 1996, a few months after I nearly died by suicide. I was miserable and had just received the most dismal prognosis from my psychiatrist:
“Keep taking this cocktail of mood stabilizers and antidepressants forever and you can continue to live a somewhat normal life.”
That moment was my ultimate rock-bottom. I felt a great sense of despair, as I was without options. I had neither the energy to continue living such a miserable life – one that had consumed me for 10 years – nor to end it. I was stuck. BIG TIME.
I was absolutely defeated and had no clue what to do.
Shortly thereafter, something in me surrendered and I heard a voice say: “You are responsible for your own happiness.” I only recently realized that this voice came my future self.
That moment changed my life and propelled me down the path of personal accountability and later, deep spiritual exploration.
Then in 1999, this path that I was on reached a fork thanks to the teachings of the late Indian philosopher and jnana yogi Jiddu Krishnamurti.
To the right was the path of all things I’d been working so hard to achieve over the past three years. To the left was what I’ll call the wayfinder’s path.
The path of the unknown, the uncertain. The path of the heart, the path of the soul. The path of purpose and intention. The path of love and compassion. The path of spirit. The path of integrity and truth. The path of awakening to a higher level of consciousness.
At the fork, I chose left.
And that’s where my journey got interesting.
It’s where I spent two years living in various stages of homelessness intermixed with moments of reprieve.
It’s where I was invited into sacred Diné and Mdewakanton Mendota sweat lodges and pipe ceremonies.
It’s where I chose to get arrested to bring awareness to a cultural genocide occuring within the continental US.
It’s where I did things like hop freight trains, hitchhike, and become a salt (union spy).
It’s where I got knocked up, raised my daughter mostly on my own, and went back to college.
It’s where I graduated at the top of my class in economics, completed extensive postgraduate study in applied economics, and earned a masters in public administration and nonprofit management.
It’s where I got recruited by the CIA.
It’s where I gave up a fantastic, highly-coveted job in the Governor of Montana’s budget office to move to the Chicago area so that my daughter could live closer to her father.
It’s where I got sued for custody of my daughter and then – after hitting another rock-bottom – chose the path of integrity and forgiveness over resentment and bitterness.
It’s where I lost two jobs due to “economic conditions,” filed for bankruptcy, and got divorced…all within 14 months.
It’s where I got a fantastic corporate job reporting to executive leadership, where I was well-compensated and working in my “zone of excellence” (a Gay Hendricks reference).
It’s where – despite my successes – I found myself miserable once again.
I wasn’t living my purpose. Somewhere down the path I’d been following was a missed fork.
And now, I had financial responsibilities…I couldn’t just drop out of my current life circumstances like I did back in 1999.
I didn’t know what my purpose was, but it was critically important to me to figure it out. So, I enrolled in my second yoga teacher training program, this one with a divine femine-focused lineage-based trauma-sensitive approach in the hopes of getting closer to the answer that I so desperately sought.
Yoga teacher training didn’t offer the ever-elusive answer to my existential question, but it did bring me to my yoga mentor Adi Shakti’s podcast, and that led me to work with Danish spiritual business coach Maria Saraphina. And while Maria didn’t explicitly lead me to my purpose either, our work together set the stage for me to finally uncover it.
The answer hit me upside the head at some point during my life coach training (yeah, I did that, too!).
It turns out that my purpose had been in plain sight all along, but I’d failed to recognize it because I was searching for what was effectively a job title.
My purpose is to BE that love, that light that the world so desperately needs. My heart, my soul knew this on some level when I was studying Jiddu Krishnamurti’s teachings back in 1999.
What I’d spent more than 20 years looking for was the expression of my purpose. Until recently, I didn’t consciously realize that the two differed!
It’s now clear to me that my purpose is the same as it was in 1999 and even before that. And, I’ve decided to currently express my purpose through my coaching, BEing the change, and facilitating sacred sister circles.
Tomorrow, I may express my purpose differently. The most important thing for now in relation to my purpose is that I keep – as my coaching mentor Martha Beck puts it – both my eagle and mouse vision engaged.
Eagle vision is the BIG picture, the seemingly impossible goal. It reflects the most magnificent expression of my purpose; of BEing the love and light in a way that will ultimately bring some healing to our world.
Mouse vision is the right-in-front-of-my-face picture; it’s taking the next step that shows up on my doorstep. Today, mouse vision may call me to update my website, get coached by a friend, or record a podcast episode. Tomorrow it may mean having a discovery call with a potential client.
So this is a very condensed portion of my story. Even though my life’s details likely differ radically from yours, can you see yourself in my story in some way?
Now, I have a question for you. What is your story?
What is your purpose and how will you ultimately express it (eagle vision)? And, what are you being called to do right now (mouse vision)?
Whatever’s calling you, you can go it alone. Or you can work with a guide. If you suspect that working with a guide who’s been there would better serve you, click here to learn more.